Do Everything Whole Heartedly
If you are putting yourself for something, like if you give towards something, then do it by your heart; otherwise, not. That’s the thing. Whatever you do in your life, there should be a balance and will.
I think in girls, the most important thing is to instill confidence. That whatever you are, you are. To believe yourself. Whatever people say, it doesn’t matter. For example, if a pimple appears on a face, it’s normal. Because you’re a human, and if it doesn’t appear, it is not a human thing. It would be best if you never were inglorious of who you are. You should believe in yourself; if you do, it’s visible to people, and then they start respecting you. You should not be apologetic about who you are.
Own your personality and do anything you believe; you shouldn’t care about what other people say. Break the stereotypes about why male protagonists? Why can’t females? You should own your flaws because your flaws and imperfections make you unique. My parents want me to be a strong girl, and they always instill too much confidence in me because, in our society, women need to be confident; that’s why they focus on me a lot. They always left the decision up to me, but they told me to have my priorities to it. I think whatever is written for you just finds you.
One day someone comments to a girl that her face is just like their maid’s. I didn’t feel angry at her, but I was upset that is a maid, not a human? What does it mean? If she looks like their maid, is she not beautiful? Why can’t a “maid girl” be beautiful? Because she is working as a maid, she can’t be considered a human, and why would be compared to a maid is something offensive? I’m sure a maid works harder than me.
We need to start looking at the bigger picture! Learning to respect everyone and try not to feel superior to others is based on superficial and pointless things. As for me, I’m not something extraordinary. I’m just an ordinary girl, minding my business and trying to live my life. You can not write off someone and consider them inferior based on how much money they make. Because if you don’t speak against these things, it is as good as acknowledging it – that exactly you are right, “maids can’t be attractive.”
So, if you speak against such things that aren’t good, then people will support you and start speaking with you. They should admit that if someone is lower in status or financially disturbed, we should consider them humans and respect them. Actually, what is the status? What’s it? If a woman is earning money with such effort and struggling for her home, we should appreciate her. I would appreciate her that she is an empowered woman.
Do Your Work Yourself
From my childhood, I was trained that we have to do our work ourselves. And if someone is working at our house, so they are helping us, we shouldn’t be rude to them. I’m responsible for the setup of my wardrobe and cleaning my room. But then I think I learned all these things from my mom as my parents always believe we should do our work ourselves. We should not depend on others for our work. I think it’s from childhood, and you have a mindset that your parents built. And according to that, you perceive things, people, or the privileges of life.
We are Nothing
I remember my father once asked me to introduce myself.
He said: Who are you?
I was like, what kind of question are you asking?
He asked again: “who are you?”
I said: Hamna Qasim.
He said:” who?”
I said: I’m studying for IGCSEs.
He said:” But you haven’t completed it yet.”
“What’s your identity?”
I said: I’m your daughter.
He said:” No.”
Then he said:” Basically, you’re nothing.”
So, unless you’re something, you should never have a sense of entitlement that I’ve achieved this in my life. We should always work towards contributing to life in this world. First, make your identity, establish yourself then we should think that it’s our right that someone works in our house. So, you should always be thankful and not think I’m entitled to this thing.
I believe in equality. If a girl brings a tray, then the boy should also. I think that as much a woman contributes to the household, a man can also contribute that much. It was in old times when a woman sat in the house and was financially dependent on the man. But now it’s the opposite. Everyone is equal, and they can do anything they want.
It would be best if you believed in your parents. Whatever they think or decide for you matters the most. I was never forced to accept their decisions. This process was done logically. Whenever it comes to a decision, it was like: it’s our opinion; if you like it- accept it, and if you don’t like it’s your decision. So, everything is done softly.
Badness depends on how you define it. I wouldn’t say it’s bad, but it had differences. Every human is different. There is no manual that this is perfect, and this is imperfect. I own myself. I don’t see any flaw in me, neither I see any fault in others. I don’t think you should hold arrogance and consider it as confidence. That’s arrogance. If someone does evil things or speaks a lie, it’s habitual, and that’s their personality. If someone is doing something, we shouldn’t label someone that they are a liar or a bad guy. Instead, we should seize their hand from committing a wrong-doing.
There’s no definition of beauty. Beauty is within yourself. Everyone has different hair, color, complexion, and body structure, so these things make you different and unique from one another. Confidence comes when you accept yourself for what you are; after that, whosoever says anything to you, you’re not affected.
YOU SHOULD NEVER BE SORRY FOR BEING YOURSELF.
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