What is Love for Me?

I think love is inside you; something within your soul. It’s not defined by others. It’s not about loving XYZ. Whether you have that strength or not, it’s not dependent on another person. It’s your capacity to love. You never have to plan love because it happens naturally, and it needs a balance, and to resonate with you. I know love happens. You should love others, but first, you have to love yourself.

But here, my focus will be on how elders’ should react when their children express their feelings to them and what advancements have come in the word ‘love.’

Modernization

It is a modern generation and many decades have passed in acknowledging this feeling like a crime. Parents should believe in their children and give them confidence that they are with them if their decision is right. Youngers are meant to make mistakes and the elders are the ones who make their mistakes right. Parents should give their younger ones enough space so that they can frame that thing as right or wrong. In my view, it is natural. Every person living in this world has the right to love or like someone.

Disagreements

So, talking about ‘love,’ it is also victimized by society’s stereotypes. It is an emotion that is not under human control; it’s natural. Living in a world that is layered with typical minds is rather an arduous task to change minds and spread awareness. In my point of view, changing thoughts about this love thing is also an act of spreading awareness which will prevent further disagreements between relationships.

This single word also led to many vast disagreements in relations which lasts for such a long time. But an important word comes here “disagreements”- these are only caused when we lack in understanding the person in front of us. The 3 alarming emotions that suddenly attack a person when he/she heard a piece of news that their child is in love with someone are ego, anger, and stubbornness.

Why do Parents Oppose their Children?

Parents oppose it because they think that their children are not that mature to take decisions for their lives. Though, in this Digital Era, we all become very precise about our do’s and don’ts. Secondly, they might want to take advantage of the praise that they have chosen life partners for their daughter or son. But everyone should be proud of their kids that they are wise enough if they present their choices and ask for your opinion.

Give Confidence

Here is the question which gives children confidence that their parents value their choice:

“Is there anyone in your life, or do you like someone?” This question shows them that their choices and decisions matter to the elders. Nowadays, youngsters’ and their opinions changed from the past. Modern culture is widespread, and being in that culture is a thing of admiration for youngsters. For example, your child tells you that he/she loves someone, and by chance, you know the person they love. So, if there is nothing wrong with that person, you should give importance to your child’s choice and consider the matter. If not, then have a logical, smooth and clear discussion by maintaining a peaceful environment.

How to Cope with this Situation Calmly?

So my point here is that this is the situation, exactly this is the situation when there is an essential need to act in a calm manner and understand the person! Mostly I have seen in my surroundings that when people hear news like that, they start acting abnormally, or not in a human manner. Remember, your actions cause you pain. Though pain is inevitable. Suffering is always completely optional. Know where to stop.

Understand

Elders’ don’t understand that it’s a natural human thing that requires a peaceful discussion. You need to respect others’ perceptions, so here is the thing. When you respect your child’s emotions and perceptions in return, I’m sure they will respect your decisions and give importance to you.

Rebellious behavior; this happens when you act abnormally, like slapping your child. In return, what happens? They rebels. They go against you. They disrespect you.

It’s a human reaction that happens when you act in a manner that deviates from what is normal.

Ignorance

Love; before entering the doors of this feeling, a question arises in every young mind: “what will be the reaction of my parents?” This sentence pressurized them to hide their feelings.

Education is given to end up the word ‘ignorance.’ The reaction we present in a tray to our children when they express their feelings in front of us is a sign of deep ignorance.

In this case, their reaction determines the difference between the educated and uneducated. The reaction at that time defines how wise you are.

Think

This is a high-strung situation; either you handle it carefully and think before you speak and react, or you will lose everything that is yours, emotionally. Be a wise changer!

Clothe yourself with wise strength, dignity, and righteous acceptance.

In the end, we are all just stories. Write yours wisely that represents you.

Remember, the greatest successes come from having the freedom to fail.

Mark Zuckerberg

Don’t be afraid of losing. Losing is a small path on a road that leads you to your destination. Be brave. Own your mistakes and flaws, and the universe will guide you.

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